Why I Don’t Believe In Sacrifice

Happy new year, people! I’ve been really caught with some end-of-year work, hence the lack in posts (boo! excuses!) but really.. I still have a crapload of work to get through before the chinese new year swings around.

Now back to the titular statement… it’s true – I don’t believe in sacrifice. (And I’m not talking bout some fancy Aztec ceremonial here…) You see, I get kinda amused whenever someone moans that they have to make a TON of sacrifices to achieve whatever heck they wanted to achieve. woo hoo…

I used to believe in sacrifice myself too — ya know, the no pain, no gain mantra. But nowadays, I kinda disagree with that perspective. Here’s how it happened…

One afternoon, kinda like over a year back, I had a friendly bloke who came over to my place to interview me. He was compiling interviews of successful people into a book and he wanted to do one on me. (omg! I always cringe whenever someone deems me successful. There are loads more people way more successful. Really. I’m just a BUM. I’m telling you now — I work successfully so I can BUM. no shit. AND I like to do my bumming now. Not when I’m octogenarian risking heart failure.)

Anyway, one of the questions he asked me was – “What type of sacrifices did I have to make to achieve success?”

And I was gonna go on some tangent about how I had to do this and that and sound all heroic at the same time, when I realized that ‘Hey! That’s not true!’ — I DIDN’T have to make any sacrifices at all. I’m exactly where I wanna be and I’m HAPPY being where I am and doing what I did to get here.

You see, I believe that if you have to sacrifice something, it usually means you need to lose, to give up something in order to attain something else. Well, that may be true for some sucker who wants EVERYTHING and can’t make up his mind. But for me, I didn’t feel that I lost anything to achieve my success. Nothing. Zilch.

I wanted to spend all those hours ‘toiling’ away at the computer, figuring out how to create a website. I wanted to spend my weekends reading books and going through courses on how to build an Internet business. I wanted to spend weeks writing and crafting salesletters, emails, reports, etc, etc. etc. I WANTED to do all those things. Even though it was tough at times, I wasn’t complaining. I wanted to do all those things to achieve my goals.

In other words, there was NO sacrifice. I was doing the things I wanted to do. And even though spending all that time playing computer games (I am so geek. Sometimes.) would have been a lot more enjoyable. I didn’t actually want to play computer games; I wanted to get all that work done, because you know deep down, you’ll be happier doing all that work instead of killing another pixelated dragon.

So you see, there is no sacrifice. For example, if you wanted to hit the gym to build a better body — you just bloody hit the gym. No complaints, no whining. Stop thinking you have to sacrifice all your TV, leisure, drinking time just to go to the gym.

If you are going to gym, it means you WANT to go to the gym over spending time getting drunk. You honestly want that for yourself. So again, even if you may find it more enjoyable getting knackered, you don’t actually want that, because it gets you no where — and that won’t make you HAPPY.

So if you’re feeling that you’re missing out on or ‘sacrificing’ something just to achieve whatever it is you want. Whoa.. hold on. You’re not. You are consciously choosing your own actions. No one’s forcing you to do anything. So if it means you spend countless hours toiling over something — hey! you actually wanna do it. And you’re happy doing so.

All the best for 2009.

  

8 Comments so far

  1. Paul on January 8th, 2009

    It’s been long since your last post. Great to hear from you again. And this post rocks man! :)

    Good for some real time reflection on what I must do.

  2. Adam Wong on January 8th, 2009

    Hey Paul,

    Thanks! just ma point of view…

  3. Loke Wai Hoe on February 4th, 2009

    Hi Adam

    I like this posting…

    What you have mentioned is very true…

    Our actions are based on feelings; nothing to sacrifice…

    Regards
    LOKE

  4. Adam Wong on February 5th, 2009

    ditto ditto..

  5. PowerBlogger on February 12th, 2009

    Truely an eye opener, now I know better what sacrifice means

  6. Stardust on February 2nd, 2010

    Hey, interesting point of view. And you’re right! If you’re doing what you enjoy and want, it won’t feel like a sacrifice. So, we should always find where our passion lies and pursue it.

  7. Rajeev Vashista on August 25th, 2010

    Wow what a easy way to explain that actually we are doing what we love, it is not someone forcing us and we are suppose to crib. In case we don’t like we can quit anytime.
    Adam you really make difficult situations into so easy one.

  8. bobkomas on October 7th, 2010

    I love music like “Queen”. What about you?

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